If you can dispassionately talk about your ex, it is a good sign that you are moving past the pain of the relationship break up.If you would toss over a potential suitor for the chance to talk to your ex, your heart is probably still invested in your past relationship. If it would change your focus from your date to your ex, it may be an indication that you are not quite over the break up of the relationship.When you are dating, the subject of past relationships does come up.Being able to give a quick and dispassionate explanation of the relationship will help reassure your date that you have moved on. If so, you may still be working to come to terms with the relationship break up.If you would take the call from the potential suitor and tell your ex that you will call them back, you are probably in a good place to start dating again. If you cant, you probably arent ready to start dating.If you are on a date and you go on and on about your previous relationship, it is going to be a huge red flag that you are not ready to take a relationship with them seriously.Mourning the loss of the relationship for a time is perfectly natural.It is a time to come to terms with your loss so that you can move on to a brighter day.
"Many choose to stay 'in the angry' or 'in the bitter' to the point that they are unable or unwilling to move forward from a place of pain to a place of peace," writes Carole Brody Fleet, author of Widows Wear Stilettos.
Starting to date again after a breakup is a nerve-wracking experience. What if you end up comparing someone new to your ex and it makes you sad? (Okay, that last one was stolen from the Anna Farris comedy What's Your Number?
your date is so awkward already that it actually gets better when you accidentally set your hair extensions on fire?
If a phone call stirs up all kinds of thoughts and emotions, your heart probably needs more time to heal.
If it causes you think about your past relationship and brings you down, you probably need to take more time to come to terms with the break up.