When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.For once, don't jam your calendar with plans a season in advance. Only when they finally went out to dinner together did they both realize their connection.By writing this in your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not smart or self-aware enough to write it yourself.Most living grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.You do this by being original and, above all, specific about your interests.I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve. Let go of the self defeating thoughts holding you back.
Say which music you like, and your favourite place to see your friends.They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, short hair, between 5’10” and 6′, from north-east Birmingham, and so on. First, they make the writer sound like a control freak.Second, they sound like an exact description of the writer’s ex.You can tell he's into you if he doesn't hit on your friends and always treats you with respect. He may just need one more promotion before he gets the guts to go for you. It is heartbreaking to see them make the same mistakes over and over again.