Some narcissistic traits, when used appropriately with personal boundaries, make for exceptional people.
Ambition, motivation, even arrogance and desire for power, are good attributes when balanced with humility and not used at the expense of others. Needing to feel powerful by putting others down is unhealthy.
Before you can move on, the most important thing to understand about narcissists is that underneath their apparent self-confidence is a profound lack of self-esteem.
Narcissists do not think well of themselves, and to make themselves feel better, they choose partners who doubt themselves and their capabilities.
Was there a time at the beginning of the relationship when you asked yourself, That was a good clue.
Your lack of confidence was the reason you attracted a narcissist.
Then, every so often, he would shower me with love and affection, and I would think, .Such an imbalance in personality, looks, and attributes, where one is extroverted and the other introverted, sets alarm bells ringing.At bottom, the extroverted, superficially exceptional ones are that way only in their own mind.Let me put it this way: If you had strong self-esteem and confidence in yourself, you would not be chosen by a narcissist as a possible partner.This is because narcissists like to control and feel superior.