By the fourth step in the process, I was halfway through the first month of my subscription. This issue is not applicable purely to online Christian dating, of course, but these dating sites, I’m learning, are often where men with this sort of outlook end up.As my London girlfriends and I started trying out exclusively Christian dating sites, such as Christian Connection, Christian Cafe and Christian Crush, the line ‘Faces that only their mother would love’ was whispered among the three of us. While many Christians have found long-term love through Christian dating sites, I’ve also heard stories of the same Christian men existing on these sites for years. Online dating creates naturally (and thankfully) more options than our local town may provide, which can catalyse the desire to be fine-tuned and higher in goal-setting – and that’s where all this gets interesting.This was confirmed by a survey conducted by OKCupid, which suggested that on average, men aged 20–50 prefer to date a girl in her early 20s.Despite having limited the age to 41 on my own filter, the ‘Daddios’ – as old as 57 – were flooding into my inbox. I could manage the vertically challenged thing, but there was no spark. ’ shares my friend from the UK, via Whats App.‘I’ve been matched with a 24-year-old woman who is looking for a man or a woman. He was actually three inches shorter than he said on his profile – so he’s not 5’9 but a whopping 5’6.
It began to appear that choosing the ‘spirituality is important’ option was a limitation. And why wouldn’t e Harmony let me search through the men registered for myself?
I would sign up to both secular and exclusively Christian websites, both paid and free, adding in the latest craze of ‘hook-up’ dating apps.
On every dating site or app I tried, I would clearly state that I was a Christian, and that spirituality was ‘very important’ to me.
But I was slightly disappointed with the options I was being given: too old, too young; too invested in believing in ‘the one’ rather than the best ones.
Too many were divorced and didn’t sound like they were healed from the last marriage.