But when you see your ex get back to the dating scene, particularly within a few weeks of the breakup, the pain can be excruciating.
You might feel as though the relationship meant nothing for your ex and that they never even really loved you. What for your ex may be an adequate period of mourning the end of a relationship, might seem too short for you and the return to dating on part of your ex too soon.
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Some amount of sadness is normal Dealing with a breakup is hard as it is.
Above all, it is hardly fair on the new person to be wanted merely as a means of forgetting the past instead of the person he/she actually is.
Examine your intentions If it has been quite a while, say around three months, since your breakup and even then seeing your ex resume dating hurts you badly, perhaps you should be honest with yourself.
Seeing your ex move on to other partners, you may be tempted to search for a replacement but unless you have healed from within, no amount of external distractions can enable you to really leave the past behind.
Examine your thoughts and see if you had been entertaining hopes of getting back with your ex.
Such expectations are hardly unusual and quite often estranged couples have been known to get back together after a brief period of separation during which they probably had the time and space to analyze their individual priorities.
Fast forward two years later and, huge surprise, I'm still single.
Reflecting back on my dating experience, post-great love, I realized there was nothing wrong with any of the men I had gone on dates with (OK, maybe a few of them). Subconsciously, I was comparing every single guy I met to my ex and this stupid pedestal I had placed him on.