If you are constantly feeling these emotions, they have a hold on you.
You can’t begin living life in a new way if any part of you holds on to the old ways.
That may be a scary thought and the options may seem limited.
It is what the abuser wants you to believe, that you have no power.
To let go you must take action and to make the needed changes necessary to move on with your life.
Abuse tends to impede how we process thoughts and emotions.
While they may have some positive qualities, they hold toxic and unrealistic expectations which cannot be meet.
They can’t control their own emotions, so they look to control others.
Some carry these events for years, even their entire lives, because they didn’t know how to release these events.
If you are in an abusive environment, the first step is to get out.
Every deserves the opportunity to allow themselves to change. The next step is to get out of the abusive relationship. It’s hard to let go of traumatic memories, raise self confidence and self esteem and move forward with life again if someone is still holding you down.
While it is not always easy to do, you have to decide it’s time to move on, to put your needs front and center.