If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.Most people will accept this or make a joke in an attempt to fish for more information (“What, have another hot date after ours? You can come up with a reason you can only be out for a set amount of time but most people will not press very hard to find out why.One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.
If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.
A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.
Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.
Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.
If you enjoy talking on the phone or prefer to do so before meeting someone, treat this step like you would the first date by asking for the phone number by the third email.