Therefore my advice is to accept (for now) the conciliatory offers he's making, even though they will never be 'enough'. With a third person mediating, you should be able to thrash out many issues, including the important one of what you tell your grown-up children.
There's his fear of ageing, your own grief for all you have lost in the past couple of years, how you face up to disillusionment, what would help you rebuild, and so on.
You endured breast cancer, had surgery and all the painful treatment, and now have the added punishment of knowing that he finds your scars 'difficult to come to terms with'.
oh lord, forget packing the bags - put the lot on a bonfire.
I'm 51, I work full time and have been married for 30 years, with two grown-up children - one of them still living at home.
If he does think he has become addicted to online sites then he should seek counselling for himself, as well as couple counselling with you.let him walk naked and see how appealing women find his ageing body! You sound pleased that he is at least trying - very late in the day - to work on himself and help save the marriage.You also make the very important point that you no longer feel so much his victim as before.At this point the question is not just whether or not you forgive him again, but also whether he can start to forgive himself.The man is terrified of getting old and so he is acting the fool - like so many before him.