Let’s say, you really love the fantasy of public sex, but you know, don’t have any actual plans to follow through on that.Phone sex is a great and safe place to talk about the things you wouldn’t or couldn’t do in real life.So, make sure you both block out enough time to do this after things get hot and heavy on the phone.Although, phone sex quickies can be just as hot too Imagine you had that sexy conversation right as your partner was about to leave work and come home?Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward, is to set up a roleplay scenario. For example, “Remember when we were in Aruba and I was teasing you on the beach with my cleavage and later the sex was soooo hot?Lauren suggests, “Imagine I’m a sex robot you can program to do whatever you want. Imagine if I had done [insert alternative sexy activity].” Some jumping off points, should you need: “What if you realized I was wearing a strap-on under my bikini?Lauren says to draw out your words using soft whispers and sprinkle in a few playful sighs here and there while you’re talking.
It’s important for both parties to understand that it’s okay to call a "detour" (detour is a word that can keep things moving, as opposed to stop).Be sure you trust your partner and that he/she won’t weaponize them against you later.Lauren says if you can’t answer quickly and strongly YES to the question, “do I trust my partner? Safe, sane, and consensual is the motto to keep in mind.Think of as many different scenarios as you can: the library, the back of your car, Paris, in an airplane, at a Costco, etc.As for roleplay scenarios, Lauren suggests: cop, sexy nurse.