And I knew that there had to be other people out there who felt like me.And to know that you live in Chicago, and you’re a Black Muslim woman — you could not have a further experience from my life...“And I’m also 27! ”After being raised on a steady diet of Disney movies, I expected to meet someone and fall passionately in love — but wound up collapsing under the pressures of modern dating.Then he would have to approach my dad and mom and introduce himself to them and kind of ask for permission that way.And then both families would meet and feel each other out.I would assume he’s already spoken to his parents about it.Actually, he’s had to already have spoken to his parents. So his parents have given him the okay to move forward.For example, Ramadan just ended, and just to know that the guy that I’m seeing is going to want to go to the mosque with me.Not just wanting to go to the mosque with me, but is going to be the one to be like, ‘Hey, I’m going to the mosque for these late night prayers. ’”This isn’t the same, but I relate to those feelings when it comes to the prospect of kids, since I’d never get into a long-term relationship with someone who doesn’t want to have children.
That’s what compelled me to start writing — I felt so alone.So now it’s like, where the fuck do you find a handsome, attractive, intelligent, emotionally sensitive, family-oriented Muslim? As a woman, it’s already hard to find someone who is not a scum bag. When you’re dating, how does the topic of religion come up? He might just say ‘As-Salaam-Alaikum’ [“Now, if the guy isn’t Muslim, it’s just kind of easier to tell.It can’t be true, but it feels like there are way less men then there are women.”I mean, I live in New York City, and I feel like that all the time. Because the initial conversation is about anything else in the world aside from the religion.And I didn’t realize the steps that people took to get to that and if they even have found it.Even in my friend’s relationships — did they find it, or what are the things they compromised on?