It’s not my place to judge, but everyone’s entitled to his/her preferences.
Write to more Indian men and your response rate should go up by 15%.
And it makes sense since the most attractive men get 11 times more email than the lower-rated guys.
The point is, Mellie, you’re dealing with men who are at the top of the dating totem pole – 35-40 year old cute, successful guys in New York City. It’s not that you’re wrong for wishing that things came a little bit easier; it’s that you’re hoping for a different reality, which generally is not a good use of your time.
I am a 36-year-old East Indian woman living in New York City. This is incredibly frustrating, especially after I checked your blog and saw that in a question you asked about response rate, ALL these women said that they got at least 50-60% response rate.
Unlike most of the lookie-loos who read free blogs and newsletters and don’t try anything different, you put your money where your mouth is and invested in Finding the One Online. However, there are a few variables that might be affecting your experience…and I’d just like to point them out to you. In this famous Ok Cupid blog post, Ok Cupid takes great pains to illustrate that while women think that 80% of men are BELOW AVERAGE in attractiveness, men actually have a fair appraisal of women’s attractiveness.
And now you want to know when the payoff is going to come. Since I don’t know you at all, I’m just going to be objective and theorize why you might not be doing as well as you’d like. And while they still write disproportionately to the best looking 33% of women, normal women still get plenty of attention online.
Just because I get guitar lessons doesn’t mean I’m going to be performing like Clapton any time soon.
And just because you bought Finding the One Online and rewrote your profile and tried my email technique doesn’t necessarily mean that you nailed it.