The observation of an ex-spouse can trigger that emotion and can send you down a rabbit hole of looking back on your relationship, questioning your decision to divorce, or even, affecting your mental health.
A study published in the Computers in Human Behavior journal found that social media use can trigger feelings of envy that were found to predict depression symptoms.
If you can find out whether or not your ex-spouse began dating them before your divorce was finalized, you might be able to find out whether or not they spent any money on them during their dates.
If they had and the divorce was not finalized, they are spending marital assets, and marital waste would be provable by your attorney.
Whether it is someone that you went to middle school with or your third cousin, you find yourself staring at their posts and photos, giving you a glimpse into their lives.
Whether you seek professional assistance in working on the jealousy you feel regarding your ex-spouse or control your own exposure to their social media accounts, you will learn that you no longer need to rely on the comparison for self-validation and that you are capable of a bright future on your own.
A friend once told me his test of whether he’s over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else.
As difficult as it may be after a divorce, you can find some upsides in growing from your sense of jealousy.
Knowing how jealous this may have made you is a realization worth reflecting on.