Power poses were introduced to the world in a 2012 TED Talk by Amy Cuddy and they’ve gained massive popularity since then, probably because they’re a quick, easy way to help people feel great about themselves.
All you have to do is stand like a superhero, hands on hips, for a couple of minutes. Professor Cuddy’s research showed that posing the body powerfully made people feel more confident going into high pressure situations like an interview, presentation — or date.
I work from the ‘inside out’ because if you fix the internals, you actually don’t have to work on the externals.
As humans, we’re hard-wired to know how to do all of the body language stuff; we just make the mistake of f*cking up the mindsets which leads to us layering on ‘hacks’ to try and achieve the same result.”But rest assured: Ben says he still teaches external hacks like the ones listed above, because they can also be helpful when you’re trying to get over whatever internal issue is making you feel so awkward.
Elite Singles spoke to experienced dating expert Kimberly Seltzer for the 3 steps required to take the guesswork out of body language flirting.
Thomas has an acronym that he uses with his clients: SOLD — Smiling, Open Body Language, Leaning, Direction.
Basically, keep a friendly face, an open body posture, and point your body toward your date.
But anyone who has ever had a random person keep touching them after they’ve given all the signals that they’re not interested knows just how often people mess up this tip.
Remember: It’s just as important to pay attention to your date’s signals as it is to communicate properly with your own body.