Sad though the situation is, if you’re hoping for long-term love but are dating a commitment-phobe you’re probably better off out of the relationship.
Just as the excitement grows, your date starts to pull away, becomes distant and unavailable and next thing you know, they’ve done a Phantom and you’re out in the cold.
I invested in several fruitless relationships with men who were avoidant, emotionally unavailable, inconsistent and generally noncommittal.
This was a frustrating and really draining time in my life (especially because most of the men I chose also lived interstate).
My period of relationship ‘false starts’ taught me a lot about commitment and about my own choice in men.
Now, as a psychologist and dating coach I have regular conversations with my clients about this very topic and it’s great to draw on both personal experience and professional industry intelligence.