An abuser will blame others for all problems or for the abuser's own shortcomings.
Someone is always out to get the abuser or is an obstacle to the abuser's achievements.
The abuser may call the victim frequently during the day, drop by unexpectedly, refuse to let the victim work, check the car mileage, or ask friends to watch the victim.
In the beginning an abuser will attribute controlling behavior to concern for the victim (for example, the victim's safety or decision-making skills).
If you are in Midcoast Maine in Sagadahoc, Lincoln, Knox and Waldo counties, New Hope for Women is here to help by calling our toll-free number at 1-800-522-3304, visiting our ‘Contact’ page, or stopping by any of our Midcoast offices.
If you are not from the Midcoast Maine area, here are some resources that may be of help to you: the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence at 1-866-83-4HELP or via the web at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 or via the web at
Holding someoneback in order to make demands, such as "You will listen to me! If you are in Midcoast Maine in Sagadahoc, Lincoln, Knox and Waldo counties, New Hope for Women is here to help by calling our toll-free number at 1-800-522-3304, visiting our ‘Contact’ page, or stopping by any of our Midcoast offices.
It's important to realize that an abusive boyfriend or girlfriend can use physical or emotional attacks and that emotional abuse can be as serious as physical abuse.
The victim, almost always a woman, will be expected to serve.An abuser will attempt to isolate the victim by severing the victim's ties to outside support and resources.The batterer will accuse the victim's friends and family of being "trouble makers." The abuser may block the victim's access to use of a vehicle, work, or telephone service in the home.As this behavior progresses the situation will worsen, and the abuser may assume all control of finances or prevent the victim from coming and going freely.A victim often has known or dated the abuser for a brief period of time before getting engaged or living together.