This is likely because the concept of dating is relatively new and many may even disagree as to what it means.Canon law, however, does require Catholics to live morally and to strive for holiness, which raises the question of whether a divorced Catholic be dating.The answer to this seemingly straightforward question is “it depends.” It depends on your individual situation and your view of dating and what that means to you.It also depends on how you were previously married and whether the form of that marriage was valid in the eyes of the Catholic Church.
Regardless of your individual situation, one thing is very clear, we are all called to live chaste lives, whether married, single, or divorced.
Of course, if it remains unclear about what the Lord wants for you in your life and whether you should be dating, or even whether you should be dating a particular person, I would encourage you to speak to your priest, seek spiritual direction, or ask a Canon lawyer for advice.
All of these boys were Catholic—either practicing or, at least, culturally Catholic. I figured, I’d meet some Catholic boy eventually, have the Catholic wedding, and have the Catholic babies and that’d be it. At eighteen, I moved away for college and planned on focusing on school, having some fun, and getting into dental school. We spent about three months going on dates, spending time together, meeting each other’s friends, and getting to know one another. He did not shy away from that label and he proudly called me his girlfriend. He looks up to his father and has a loving and devoted relationship to his mother. He did not talk disrespectfully to his mother and he sought advice from his father. Even when we were upset or mad or hurt, we took the time to hear one another out. Early on, he would come to Mass with me and I would go to church with him. If I were not able to talk about my faith or if I never was able to share it with him, I do not think we would have stayed in a relationship.
I would think about serious dating eventually and get married eventually. During my first semester of college at a local club, I met him. He was non-denominational Christian and had a faith-filled upbringing. But at some point I had to really decide if dating a non-Catholic was something I could do. We had a conversation about exclusivity and when we both discussed that our dating relationship would be exclusive and serious, I knew that was a big step in the right direction. Dating each other was a commitment to be honored and respected. He loves his siblings and even while away at college, remained involved in their lives. He reminisced about summer get-a-ways with his grandfather. I come from a big, loud, and incredibly loving family. (He has also has not said he won’t ever convert, so fingers crossed and prayers his way.)While I was applying to dental school, I had my first serious thoughts of marriage.
He was handsome, friendly, athletic, smart, loyal, funny, caring, interesting, and . He visited aunts and uncles and played with his little cousins. I wanted my boyfriend to be able to come to my family gatherings and not be scared away. We had been dating over two years when I started my application process.