I procrastinated starting out on my assignment for a week as I battled with the ego and the fear of looking desperate.I’d had serious relationships in the past, and the main feedback my pastors had given me was not that I wasn’t ready for marriage, nor wouldn’t make a great wife, but that I simply didn’t know what I wanted.
She has nice pink hair’, I reply.team, I agreed to experiment in trying to find love in the cyber world, with all its personality filters: lawn game champion, marathoner, political junkie, health nut, zombie survivalist, tree-hugger, vegan, die-hard carnivore, non-believer in cologne (or deodorant), and finally, but importantly for me, just how much are you a Christian – really?
By end of week two, I had 62 ‘reasonable matches’ (people who were more than a 60% match).
But this only happened because I extended the distance range to the whole of the US. With the men I did take a shine to, it felt like we had to take exams before we could actually obtain contact. Some of them may well have later fled to the Internet in the hope they’d find their wife: soft in character, tall, with model looks, joker, non-smoker, prays in tongues at least 45 minutes a day, preferably a virgin, never confronts but isn’t a pushover... I appreciate the need to have standards when it comes to finding a life partner, but not when we’re unwilling to look at ourselves, or the fear so clearly attached to so many requirements.
Over in London, it seemed my girls were having similar problems.
‘I wish I’d burnt my cash and made a video of it on Instagram instead of waste my time on e Harmony,’ shared one friend.