My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine.
Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
I guess I just wasn’t interested at the time or it just wasn’t time for us to happen yet you know.
My boyfriend is stationed an hour away, and we only see each other on weekends. So if you get the big invite to meet them, treat it as though you were meeting his family. Don’t drink to much, don’t discuss politics or religion. Your man’s showing you off to some of the most important people in his life; do him proud. Making friends with the guys who serve with my boyfriend made Army gatherings twice the fun. Yes, we all know that a man who takes charge is appealing.
So I spend my weekdays going out with my pals, catching up with my mom, and working on that promotion. Bonus: Meeting their girlfriends and wives provided me with a whole new support group. But a military man spends most of his time having other people telling him where to go, when to be there, and how to be dressed.
It’s making sure to text him good night before he bunks in. Each second I spent apart from my boyfriend makes each moment together twice as sweet. I always imagined dating someone who would go to college and I would see on some weekends and over the holidays. Maybe the mail screwed it up, or the Army hasn’t sent them out yet. I am 22 yrs old and from the great state of Alabama. We’ve been together for 7 months now, so you could say that I’m still green at being an army girlfriend.
It’s sending him a funny picture that will brighten his long, hard day. It’s also, according to my Army friends, one of the most rewarding careers a person can have, and one of the greatest things one can be a part of. A soldier is brave, he’s smart, and he’s a tough son of a gun. Feel free to show your pride in the conventional ways: a bumper sticker, a t-shirt, etc. So prepare yourself, you’re about to embark on what can often be a trying adventure. Each time I can make his life easier, his simple gratitude fills my heart. But I fell in love with this great guy who wanted to serve his country. I finally got his address from his parents the week before and I’ve written him 5 letters. The way Bubba and I met (and lol no he’s not some kind of backwoods redneck haha I promise ladies but that’s his nickname he’s had since he was little and its just suck for the past 25 years) is a really great story, I think its kind of like a lifetime movie type of story.